Love Recipe!

 


The relationship between two individuals can start as simple as two items in a pot of soup; they may have arrived from different markets, and miles apart, but at the end of the day it doesn’t matter… It always depends on the cook and how he mixes the items together as a recipe.
Relationships are like different soups; some are very tasty and delicious, and others are a pain to the taste buds. What really makes the difference? Simple!... the cooks! How many times have you heard people complain about a particular cooks’ meal. About how insipid the menus taste. And they wish they hadn’t taken that bite in the first place. The truth is that some cooks don’t put a lot of knowledge into their meals:

You really need to understand the various items you put into a cooking; how they should blend and in what proportion. Considerations are also expected in the timing…  when what goes into the pot during the cooking process. Archiving a list of recipes is just the beginning. The real deal is “how to prepare them”.


Love in a relationship is a complex, intricate and profound item; sophisticated but yet simple. Simple when you compare it to assembling an atomic plant.
In fact, most people spend years in a relationship without ever understanding what love truly is; they wouldn’t know it, even if it were staring them in the face. These people are BAD cooks, and they do not have a good grasp of the LOVE RECIPE.

   Two individuals involved in a romantic affair must regard each other as cooks, and their imputes into that romantic entanglement are like the items needed for the SOUP. They must understand how much of influence they should exercise over the other. And of course, a good sense of timing when contributing their own imputes. You mustn’t be too harsh or over bearing. You mustn’t assume that you alone can make the SOUP taste right.

I know they say that “too many cooks spoil the meal”… but not in this case. In fact, the reverse is rather true. The only law that applies in this KITCHEN is “three is a crowd”. Only two cooks are needed to make a delicious meal when you are applying the LOVE RECIPE… just two.
The relationship is the SOUP and both of you are the cooks. Whether it is delicious or insipid depends on how you appropriate the condiments... your imputes.
For a successful and blissful relationship, I would recommend the LOVE RECIPE. It is a simple and easily applicable arrangement. It requires the minutest, almost insignificant IQ range to practice and perfect. And you don’t need a university education to understand it. All you will need is an open heart, ready to love and be loved.





The first item on this RECIPE is TRUST:

Yea, Trust!. As simple as it sounds, it determines to a great extent the life span of any romance. An American mayor once said, during his visit to Nigeria in the late 90’s, that:
“..without trust we cannot work together, even when we are working together”
How ironical that statement is: two people could be in a relationship and not really be enjoying that relationship. They are two BAD cooks because their SOUP is tasteless. But they can make it delicious if they add some TRUST in the cooking.
Yes, they are together physically, but their souls are not! And this is a disaster waiting to happen. You need to build trust in that romance of yours. Try to communicate your expectations and fears. Constantly reassure each other of your commitment to the relationship… the cooking!

“MISTRUST IS A FIGMENT OF DEEP SEATED FEAR AND INSECURITY”
…Abu Samuel

Our cooks need to understand the importance of learning to trust; the importance of giving each other a plain platform to express and perform cannot be overemphasized. We must be transparent in our dealings and interactions with other people… especially, perceived threats to our partners. By threats I am referring to those prospective rivals you converse with on the phone, or on the streets . Your partner needs to understand in full details the nature of your conversations with an opposite gender.
The fear and insecurity that we all unconsciously harbor in  our hearts are like explosives that can be detonated by the slightest trace of insincerity or dishonesty from our partner -cook-.